Loving a so-called believer caught in immorality

Hebrews 12:16 that there be no immoral or godless person like Esau, who sold his own birthright for a single meal. As we know from previous portions of Hebrews, the author’s audience wasn’t 100% believing. Some were in danger of neglecting God’s great salvation (2:2), of having evil, unbelieving hearts (3:12), of hardness of heart (3:13), of not entering into God’s promised rest (4:1), of being incapable of repentance unto life (6:6), and of shrinking back to destruction (10:39). With that in mind, we shouldn’t be surprised at the author’s seemingly shocking admonition to be on the lookout for immoral and godless people. We all have the responsibility to “see to it” that there are none in our circle of believers who would compromise the name of Jesus for momentary, earthly gratification of the lusts of the body as Esau did.  How do we “see to it?” Three courses of action come to mind. If you become aware of someone who is acting immorally, that could be participating in porn, an unmarried couple living together with privileges, or a married person involved emotionally or sexually with someone who is not their spouse, then 1). in love and concern, confront them with Hebrews 12:1-16, and call them to repentance. That’s also the application of Matt. 7:1-5 and Gal. 6:1. 2). Inform an elder or leader of their church about your concern and love for them based on Heb. 12:15-16. Ask them to go with you to confront the individual(s) to call them to repentance (Matt. 18:15-17). 3). If they will not repent, then in accordance with Matt. 18, unite with the church in denying them fellowship. You are to avoid them as Paul admonished in 2 Tim. 3:5.  Living to love with Jesus isn’t about making sinners who call themselves Christians feel good. God’s love is the sustained direction of the will toward the highest good of someone, in the power of the Holy Spirit, for the glory of God. Not confronting an immoral so-called believer isn’t in their best interest. Wouldn’t you want someone to confront you if you were caught in a transgression such as this? We should do to others what we would wish were done for us (Matt. 7:12). If we ever are faced with such a situation, let us ask Jesus how He wants to love them. We need to be filled with the Holy Spirit, so we can love them well. God has put them in our path, and therefore, we know He intends to love them through us.