S7 Ep. 2: Will Opening Up Our Relationship Ruin It, I Hate 'Make-Up Sex,' and Where's Our Libido Gone?

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) I’m a 43-year-old woman, happily married for nearly 20 years, with tween-aged children. My husband and I have always maintained a healthy sex life (even if it is a bit vanilla most of the time) The past few years we have scheduled sex, and usually average once or twice a week. But for some unknown reason, both our libidos have disappeared. We both just don’t feel like sex at all. It’s been 2 months! There has been no change to our lives, diet, or health. What can we do to get our mojo back? Why has our sex drive disappeared so suddenly? What can we do to want to feel like it again?2) My partner and I are feisty and argue a lot. It takes me a while to recover from an argument—I need time to calm down and reconnect with her. She gets over things quickly and wants to have sex the second things are okay again. She says having sex is the quickest way to get ‘normal’ again, but I don’t want it until the emotional connection is back. How do we fix this?3) I’ve been with my partner for 8 years and we have a child. He is open to the idea of opening up our relationship to explore sex, both together and individually. We haven't done it yet, but how do I know it won't massively strain our relationship? We are so open, and we talk about sex and fantasies all the time to help boost our sex life. But when push comes to shove, how can I be sure opening up our relationship won't complicate and ruin things?To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.