S9 Ep. 9: Talking About Sex When You Haven't Had It In Years (and Years), Friends with Benefits, and How do You Know if You're Terrible in Bed?

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) I feel like your inbox for this podcast is full of questions like mine. I’ve been married for 26 years, and our sex life quietly died about 10 years ago. I’ve been listening to you both and I know this is normal. What I want to find out is if my wife misses our sex, or if she is happy with not having it? We’re best friends and still sleep naked, we just never initiate sex. We’ve never talked about sex before, even though we both enjoyed it in the past. How do I start the conversation after all this time?2) I’m a 36-year-old man and have just gone through a particularly nasty breakup with my girlfriend of 10 years. I’m not interested in having another relationship for a LONG time, if ever, but I do miss sex. I have a group of close friends, and one of them has intimated she’d be up for a friends-with-benefits arrangement. Seems like a good idea to me. What do you think?3) I hope you can help me because I think I must be a terrible lover. My long-term boyfriend just broke-up with me, and the main reason why was that he didn’t enjoy having sex with me. He said I never once initiated sex and didn’t ever seem to enjoy it. He knows I don’t have much experience and am naturally shy, but said there was ‘lots of other stuff’ as well (which he didn’t elaborate on). It's stripped me of what little confidence I did have. How do you tell if you’re good in bed? What do I have to do to become good in bed?To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.